One of the most unpleasant situations in life that we all experience is heart-break. No description necessary as everyone will know the feeling to some degree. The real question is – how do we hasten the healing?
The usual response is “time heals all wounds”, this is not incorrect however much like a fracture – if it is not healed properly it can lead to future issues. If a fracture is addressed at the time of injury it can lead to arthritis and as such – a broken heart not seen to properly can lead to an obscured perception of trust, relationships and love; this is the emotional baggage everyone speaks of.
Finding any excuse to look up, speak to or contact an ex partner is simply prolonging the pain. If you have accidentally cut yourself, you would seek to seal the wound not find another knife to dig into it. Why treat the emotional injury any differently to a physical one? If you are sold on the idea of remaining in touch with someone then at least give the injury time to completely heal before making contact again otherwise you are sabotaging yourself.
You may not realise it but your speech patterns change when you are in a relationship compared to after you break up. How often have you (or a friend) thrown out a long list of complaints about a partner while in a relationship only to promote them almost to sainthood as soon as things are over? Our minds tend to bring forward the best memories and we tend to forget how awful, unappreciated, unwanted or out right abused the other person has made us feel.
To those of you who follow the blog, you will know quite well that our clinic has a strong focus on psychoemotional health. Heart break itself may not be listed as a medical diagnosis however the symptoms associated with it are definitely within the realm of the psychoemotional.
The other issue that can arise is that a broken heart may lead to you damaging your other important relationships with friends, family and coworkers. This may come across with them receiving the backlash from the pain you feel or your standing with them falling because you keep repeating the same issues over and over without taking action.
As Tears For Fears put it in their 80’s hit song “Everybody Wants to Rule The World” – ‘I can’t stand this indecision, married with a lack of vision.’ No matter how close you are to friends or family, no body wants to see you suffer or to have to hear the same thing over and over.
So is there a way to hasten the healing of a heart-break? Yes there is. Our clinic offers you council on the matter, practical activities to assist you take a proactive approach to the break up and also acupuncture and herbal medicine to help with the symptoms.
Make no mistake – you still need to process the emotional pain much like a physical injury needs time to heal. However seeking assistance will ensure that you are taking the right steps and healing the injury properly otherwise some of that hurt may appear unwillingly in your next relationship and that can be a cause for even more pain.
In summary, time may heal a broken heart but it will not heal it properly. Seek assistance to get over this emotional injury just as you would for a physical one to ensure it does not carry through to the next relationship or damage your current ones.